30 Things Kids Wish Their Parents Would Say and Do Better...

I sat down with 3 of my children (the ones who can speak), and I asked them some questions. I wanted to know, from their perspective, what they wish that parents would say and do better. I asked them to be thoughtful about it, and give answers that would apply to all parents. Of course, the only experience they have is with their own parents -- so the list might be indicative of things that I could personally improve on. The list is simple, but profound. As you read over the list you will see that what children really want from parents is time and attention. Is there anything greater we can give? 

30 things that parents could do better

(According to Sammi, Daniel, and William van Ormer, and in no particular order...) 

1. Make eye contact (especially when a child is speaking to you)
2. Smile
3. Really listen to me/show interest in what I am saying 
4. Give compliments on my talents and accomplishments
5. Cuddle with me during movie time
6. Go for walks as a family
7. Rub my back
8. Run your fingers through my hair (requested by my boys) 
9. Do projects together (painting, creating things, even yard work) 
10. Color with me
11. Build train tracks with me
12. Take us camping 
13. Tell me I am handsome 
14. Bake cookies more often
15. Play catch together in the backyard
16. Take us to throw rocks in the river
17. Take us to the park
18. Tell me I am AWESOME! 
19. Watch movies that everyone likes
20. Sing with me
21. Tell me stories about when you were young
22. Make good dinners (NOT Borscht) 
23. Don't freakout when we lose the remote
24. Don't play on your phone when we are watching movies together
25. Help me with my homework
26. Let us build blanket forts in the living room
27. Braid my hair (requested by my girl)
28. Come to my games and concerts
29. Encourage me, and say nice things about me
30. Don't shout so much

Well, looks like someone has a little bit of work to do . . . someone, like me!